This Happened to Me: A Reckoning

Kate Price

Kate Price grew up in a small mill town in central Pennsylvania with her sister and parents in northern Appalachia. At the insistence of her mother, and through her academic accomplishments, Price escaped the unbroken cycles of poverty, violence, addiction, mental illness, and abuse that had plagued her family for generations. She started a new life in Cambridge, Massachusetts, in pursuit of her master’s and PhD. But despite having left this dark world behind, it still kept a firm grip on her.

Overcome with unexplainable grief and sadness and having sustained a series of hazy flashbacks accompanied by a “chilling of her blood and uncomfortable feeling in her bones,” Price sought out Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, a trauma specialist to help heal her constant emotional pain through EMDR therapy. He went on to write the bestselling book, The Body Keeps the Score, which features Price’s story, as the two worked together to find out about her past. When Price, whose brain had been protecting her by shutting out these horrific memories, felt safe enough, she along with van der Kolk as her guide, discovered what that darkness that lay within her was. Her father had abused and trafficked her as a child.

Price grappled with what had been revealed. Did this really happen to her? How could a parent do this to a child? A dedicated researcher and academic, she knew she needed confirmation, proof that what she had remembered had happened. And so began a 10-year quest alongside a journalist, to prove what Price knew to be her truth. With many trips back to the hometown she thought she had left forever, the two eventually found the hard-earned evidence Price had been searching for.

In this exquisitely rendered, transformative memoir, Price describes how she broke free of that which had defined her childhood and went on to create a purpose-driven life and family, on her own terms. Eventually returning to the same Appalachian community to use her education and advocacy to help ensure children are given the attention, protection, and services that she never received.

From victim to advocate, from fearful child to empowered adult, and from despair to triumph, This Happened to Me is a story of astonishing resilience and breathtaking determination.

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About the Authors
Kate Price
Kate Price
Kate Price is an associate research scientist at the Wellesley Centers for Women, a research institute at Wellesley College. She is also an advisor for the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children’s Child Sex Trafficking Expert Working Group and Global Platform for Child Exploitation Policy, and an alumni scholar at the Brandeis University Women’s Studies Research Center. An internationally recognized child sex trafficking expert and lecturer, Price has influenced the passage of state-level children’s human rights legislation and United Nations policy. She has worked extensively with trauma pioneers Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Body Keeps the Score, in which Price is featured, and Dr. Judith Herman. Price received her MA in gender/cultural studies from Simmons College and earned her PhD in sociology from the University of Massachusetts Boston. She lives in Massachusetts with her family.

Why write about northern Appalachia? What about its stories, characters, culture, questions, and landscapes inspire you?

I grew up in central Pennsylvania, so the landscape is the complicated backdrop of my childhood, which was filled with a complex mix of relishing Bloomsburg Fair confections, playing along the Susquehanna River banks on scorching summer days, driving winding country back roads with friends, while simultaneously enduring unspeakable violence at the hands of my father and men in our little hamlet.

Despite bolting from the mountains (and my family) the minute I turned 18, I felt the pull of northern Appalachia in my heart and bones no matter how far I fled. The irrefutable mix of hearty, resilient souls, Pennsylvania Dutch cooking, and quiet, country lanes is an unmatched combination that continues to call me home. I am consistently drawn to simple pleasures in a place defined by survival and self-reliance; a few hours at the local 1920’s amusement park that has blunted the monotony and backbreaking work of factory, mining, or domestic labor for generations of my family. These places also provided a respite for the violence and exploitation I (and generations of children in my family) endured in our modest homes.

One would think I would never want to return to this place, just as I’d reasoned growing up, but I am unable to find (and enjoy) the same joyful, mundane moments in our ever-expanding, rat race world. Losing myself in Toni Morrison’s “Beloved” while cradled in the same library window seat where I devoured “Are You There, God? It’s Me Margeret” in middle school, or admiring the architecture on the very main street where my grandparents met in the 1940’s, reminds me of where I come from, and where I will always return.

 

What is the place of northern Appalachia writing in our country’s broader landscape of literature?

While popular culture lauds “Hillbilly Elegy” as the region-defining book, for me, bell hook’s “Belonging: A Culture of Place” and “Appalachian Elegy” (the latter of which I am convinced inspired Vance’s title) are quintessential Northern Appalachia works.

Like my own life, hooks described how she navigated returning to her Kentucky roots while excelling in academic communities far from home. All the while, she was pulled back to the mountains, where she eventually returned for good towards the end of her life. She understood the dehumanizing ways in which she, as a Black woman, was defined in Kentucky mountain life where a segment of the population continued to glorify the Confederate flag. Yet, she acknowledged those hills as her “fate,” where only nature and her kin – not class or money – mattered. Similarly, Frank X. Walker’s “Affrilachia” poetry compresses the region’s scalding hardships and racialized heritage – like coal in the mountains – into honest and true meaning within the region’s canonical texts. Both authors transform objectification into words that embody the lyrical beauty, rich meaning, and collective resilience that define northern Appalachian resistance, pride, and literature.

 

How did you come to realize you were a writer?

I’ve always loved reading, and my first library card was my first passport. As a kid, I couldn’t believe I was not only allowed, but encouraged by teachers and librarians, to bring stacks and stacks of books home from my school and town libraries for free. The only books in our home were a set of bright orange encyclopedias my mother earned by spending a specific amount at the A&P each week.

I felt like a writer for the first time third grade when my best friend and I created “Invasion of the Crayon People” – I wrote, she illustrated – as part of a school program that invited students to produce books that where then put in circulation. I stood a little taller the first time I spotted our book in the stacks: My words were in a real library. The same sense of pride jolts down my spine whenever I see my memoir in a library or bookstore; I have always been a writer and I never tire of seeing my work “in the wild.”

 

What’s helped you succeed as a writer?

Returning to Appalachia to write much of my memoir was essential. Sitting in the places of my childhood – the library, fairgrounds, Susquehanna River banks – allowed me to describe the sights and smells in real time, rather than recalling them from memory. Even writing about the most horrific episodes of violence I endured as a child was tempered by the calm that fills my body when listening to the river water lapping on rocks, the warmth of mountain sunrises on my face, licking my salty fingertips after devouring fistfuls of Gross’s French fries, and the silent, knowing presence of lifelong friends while sipping steaming cups of tea. Being present with the ubiquitous contradictions of peace and horror that are encoded in my DNA from generations of family who never left northern Appalachia allows me to share this divine, damning place with the rest of the world.